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Jul 02

8 Lessons My Child With Autism Taught Me

The world dropped on me the first time I knew about his case. And if I faced that time alone, I might end up losing my mind and suffer from depression. I thought of it as a karma, if not a curse. Never did I think that my child with autism would teach me a lot of lessons I need to be a better version of myself. Although he speaks in fragment, he teaches me to:

Be Positive

Because his system has an auto-filter and auto-delete for negative words, I’ve learned to say “chocolates can make your tummy ache” instead of a plain “don’t eat them.”

Be Patient

He has a limited memory bank for things he has little or no interest of. So if I had to ask him “how many times do I have to tell you…?”, he wouldn’t have a clue. Unless I tell him about cars or local newscasters or teach him how to spell, I’ve got to guard my heart.

Be Excited

He is full of energy. He chases dogs and lovely girls. And when I act lamely, I will be left behind.

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Walk the Talk

“Be a good boy” doesn’t make sense to him. If I want him to be generous, I’ve got to show him how. I’ve got to let him see me handing a burger over to a random kid in the street.

Think Outside the Box

When he wants something, nothing will get in the way. He must get it and he must get it at once. So when he wants to watch his favorite Oggy and The Cockroaches on Cartoon Network, he must – even without a cable TV. A blank paper and some crayons will do the trick. Lend him your mobile phone and he will flick it before the paper TV glued to the wall.

Be Persistent

He fights for what he wants. He cries for it, rolls over for it, or even begs for it. He just can’t take no for an answer. He just won’t give up on the first, second, or fifth, or ninth or nth try. He won’t give up until I will.

Be Attentive

He finds it hard to express how he feels, what he wants and what he doesn’t. So whenever he is making faces, it’s for me to figure out whether he is irritated or it is just poop time.

Let Loose

A meltdown affects him more than it drives me crazy. And if I won’t chill and breathe, I would melt down too.

Indeed, he is the best mentor I ever have. I couldn’t be prouder.

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  1. Enid V

    It takes a special kind of mother to nurture a special child. You are indeed blessed!

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      allabouteve

      Awww.. Thank you, Enid.

  2. arra odeza (@acodeza)

    being positive with the situation helps. Let’s think nalang na God has reasons why He gave you a child with autism. He knows you could handle it naman. You’re such an inspiration kasi yung iba they could have abandoned the child kapag nalaman meron kapansanan. Thumbs up to you!

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      allabouteve

      You made me cry on that, Arra. Thanks for the encouraging words. I appreciate it so much.

  3. Melisa Sanchez

    I can relate this sis and I feel you, when I was a student teacher in (PCU) Philippine Christian University teaching there in Special Education with toddlers, behind of their situation they have always a special things that would you love them and things that you will learn from them 😉 They are gift from God and I salute you raising your your kid with positive attitude 🙂

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      eve winters

      Thank you, Melissa. Yeah, you are right. You have no choice but to be positive unless you want to handle tantrums every time. 🙂

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    Think outside the box is the most vital of all because you can be flexible in doing your motherly love to your autistic child. Always, bear in mind that God knows no boundary. Fernando Lachica

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      eve winters

      I believe you Fernando. God knows no boundaries, indeed.

  5. Zwitsy

    Not that I don’t believe in karma but when it comes to kids, never ever consider them as a karma. Every child is special and that we should be thankful that we are given gifts from heaven. I certainly agree as well that there are so many things we can learn from our kids most especially in your case. I find every child is special much more those who have autism, they are far better than a child for they don’t store hatred in their heart. 🙂

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      eve winters

      Thanks for dropping by, Zwitsy. Yes, they have a forgiving and forgetting heart.

  6. Chubskulit Rose

    There’s always good in everything, we just have to see and discover it. I am sure your child is a special one.

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      eve winters

      Yes, and our role is to unveil that special talent in them

  7. JessicaACassidy (@wifetoalineman)

    It is not easy having a special child. It takes a lot of courage and patience.

  8. Teresa Martinez

    A mother can do anything for her child not because you have to but you want to. Stay strong and positive. Looks like you’re doing well.

  9. msculit

    Your kid is blessed to have a parent like you who is very supportive. Kudos to you!

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